Our model is distinct, courageous and proven. We have redefined the youth mentoring field by creating the first and only long-term professional mentoring program in the country. Our Friends are experts in building sustained and nurturing relationships with youth. We specialize in working with youth who have faced a lot of adversity. We have the data to show that it's real and it works.

Our model was founded on research showing that the single most important factor in overcoming childhood adversity and trauma is a long-term, nurturing relationship with a consistent and caring adult. Research over the past three decades continues to affirm how much these relationships matter.

Our trauma-informed, long-term mentoring model is now being sought after by communities and systems around the country and the world. They recognize that children who've experienced a lot of adversity need more specialized and long-term mentoring relationships that Friends of the Children–Boston provides.

The Generational Change Model

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We select children who could most benefit from a relationship with a long-term professional mentor.

Like all children, the youth we serve have unique talents, varied interests and big dreams. Unlike other programs, we exclusively focus on children who are also facing systemic obstacles and who have lived through a lot of trauma. Our youth have experienced multiple adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) by the time they reach kindergarten. We partner with community organizations, schools and foster care systems to help us identify children ages 4 to 6 who could most benefit from a relationship with a Friend.

We call the youth we serve Achievers to demonstrate our belief in their potential to thrive!

  • 62% experience homelessness
  • 54% do not have enough to eat at home
  • 52% have a parent with substance abuse problems
  • 52% are impacted by the child welfare system
  • 44% have been impacted by domestic violence
  • 35% have had a report of neglect or abuse filed on their behalf
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We hire and train full-time paid professional mentors called Friends.

Our Friends' full-time job is to empower and support youth and their caregivers. Moving mentorship out of the volunteer realm is key to getting the quality, consistency and commitment our children and their families deserve in the relationship. Each Friend works with eight to ten youth, spending three to four hours every week with or on behalf of each child.

Meet Shane - Youth Advocate/Adolescent Friend

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We commit for the long term.

We commit to every child for the long term, from kindergarten through graduation. 12+ years, no matter what.

Meet Elliot

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Our work is relationship-based, individualized and intentional.

Each child gets a dedicated, one-on-one Friend who spends a minimum of 14 to 16 intentional hours per month with them. Friends and youth set goals and design activities that advance those goals and build life skills. Friends create meaningful experiences to explore each child's unique talents and interests. Friends of the Children has developed nine research-based Core Assets, which are specific qualities we focus on to ensure the social and emotional development of our youth.

Meet Kadejah

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We work with youth in school, at home and in the community.

We take a whole-child approach because we understand that lived experiences, home environment, systems, community and culture shape how a child develops and learns. Friends serve as a link between the different areas of a child's life to create stability and consistency – spending time in school as an advocate and support; time in their neighborhood to build connection and community; and time at home, becoming a trusted resource to the youth and their caregivers.

A Parent's Journey with Friends

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We evaluate, measure and improve.

We are equal parts head and heart. Data from Friends, youth and caregivers help us continuously improve and do our best day-to-day work. Ongoing third-party research and evaluation drive program improvement and innovation. Right now, our model is the focus of an ongoing longitudinal randomized-controlled trial–the longest of its kind–run by researchers from the University of Washington and New York University.

Core Assets


Friends of the Children has developed nine research-based Core Assets, which are specific qualities we focus on to ensure the social and emotional development of our youth. With our nine Core Assets in place, we believe our youth will enter adulthood with a solid foundation for future success.

Growth Mindset

Growth Mindset

I love learning and know that my abilities will improve through dedication and effort.



I understand who I am, have a place where I feel accepted and know that my contributions count.



When I have tough times, I believe it can get better.

Problem Solving

Problem Solving

I know how to weigh the pros and cons and make a decision.

Perseverance Grit

Perseverance & Grit

I work hard through challenges and finish what I start.

Self Management

Self Management

I know how to manage my feelings and take care of myself in a healthy way.

Self Determination

Self Determination

I believe in myself and am able to set goals and achieve them.

Find Your Spark

Find Your Spark

I use creativity to explore my passions.

Positive Relationship Building

Positive Relationship Building

I get along well with others and am able to find people to support me.

A Friend In Action

We call our professional mentors Friends because it isn't just a job. They are forming meaningful relationships with our youth that last for years.

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Friends support and empower youth by:

Friends support and empower parents/caregivers by:

It Works

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92% of our Achievers go on to enroll in post-secondary education, serve our country, or enter the workforce.

Long Term Outcome Graduation

98% of our Achievers are on track to graduate high school,

although 41% have parents who did not have the support necessary to complete high school.

Long Term Outcome Justice

93% of our Achievers have remained free from juvenile justice system involvement,

although 48% have parents who have been impacted by the criminal justice system.

Long Term Outcome Parenting

98% of our Achievers wait to parent until after their teen years,

although 25% have parents who started parenting during their teen years.